What is the definition of love? Where does it originate from? Does it truly form like a raisin in the Sun?
By the dictionary love is an intense feeling of deep affection; a person or thing that one loves; feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).
When did the thought of love and wanting someone to be truly happy no matter what become such a lost art. How did love become a word we throw around when you partly like a person; yet you are unaware of what it truly means to give or receive love? Why tell a person that you love them just to say it back so that they are not upset with you?
The part that truly boggles the mind is the love or actual strong contentment that you can feel for a person that you truly cannot have. Whether they don’t feel the same about you as you do about them, or they are in a relationship and totally unavailable to you……………..WHAT THEN????
LOVE is a standard that should be utilized by all Kings & Queens. I cannot tell you how to love but can only provide an opinion. Kings are to nurture, cherish uplift, and love a Queen at all times. Being open to realizing that in order for you to properly love her as your Queen there just may be somethings about yourself you have to come to terms with. Coming to terms with those difficult issues within self allows you to work on fixing those issues to be a better you for your Queen when she comes into your life.
We all suffer from the ” what is love syndrome”. We want love, we think we find love, only to realize we have yet again wasted our time with someone that was not who we thought they were. The grass is not always greener on the other side. A raisin is a part dried up grape and for most of us that is how love truly feels all old and dried up. The thought of loving someone for true happiness does still exist. It’s the process in how you go about getting it. Never base love on sex, sex is a physical action and a transfer of energy between two people. When the process of dating starts with sex it interferes with truly getting to know each other for who they are. Who cares if you can stimulate each others bodies. It means nothing if you cannot stimulate each others minds.
Kings if you are still stuck on self with the mindset of glorifying single life. Then stay single don’t attempt to date a woman or be in a relationship. Your mind is not there yet. If sneakiness and deception are in your mindset also do not date a Queen. No Queen wants to be with a King that is not going to take the time to truly learn her heart, learn her eyes (for the eyes are the window to the Soul) and lastly learn her body. She does not want a King that she has to babysit on a regular basis, because as previously stated you are so stuck on self an all the things you want. A true relationship is a two way street but a true real King is willing to learn all the things that makes his woman who she is….he knows her CORE.
When one is truly ready to give and receive love; it’s in that moment of awakening that they realize her love, her heart and her smile is most important. The decision to date or court a woman is not one to be taken lightly there are some things that you should ensure that you are not doing:
This goes for the late night calls from other women that know you are in a relationship but are still trying to get in where they fit in. Kings please know that a female outside of someone that you choose to date is calling, texting or hitting you in your DM…. well she is doing so based off something that you have told her. These are some of the main things that get you all in trouble, and also causes you to have an attitude if you Queen did it to you. So if you can’t take the heat don’t take your ass in the kitchen. I won’t go on for days but I will say this one line that should not be crossed is telling other women about the issues in your relationship. Especially if you are using it as a mechanism to lure other women for your own sexual gratification. You should never downplay or talk about your Queen to another. That’s a treacherous game to play. You should ensure that you respect her, protect her, love her and please her. You want to have a spiritual, mental and emotional connection with her. She is not to be treated as a temporary fix.
As for my Queens there is nothing at all wrong in wanting a King that can give you the world. Yet can he love you past your career choice, past the money you make or do not make, past where you live or the hobbies you have, past the clothes you wear. Can that King love you for who you are, for the CORE of you that makes you who you are? If that King cannot handle that Queens please do not enter, or remain in a situationship based on sheer contentment. You will be miserable an he is not the one for you. Queens take pride in wanting to be treated a certain type of way. You can’t blame every man you meet for the hurts of what another did to you, each King is different. Some in your eyes may not deserve to even be called King yet call them such. Do not allow yourself to be removed from your throne. If he wants you it is his duty to ensure he knows how you tick and how to properly love you. Anything less than that is a boy trying to act like a MAN!!!!!